The Sopranos (TV Series)

Irregular Around the Margins (2004)

Lorraine Bracco: Dr. Jennifer Melfi

Quotes 

• Tony Soprano : [Eventually telling her what he wants to talk about today]  I know I'm on probation and I deeply regret what I did: my nephew's fiancee

  Dr. Jennifer Melfi : [Remains silent] 

  Tony Soprano : I know what you're thinking

  Dr. Jennifer Melfi : So?

  Tony Soprano : Nothing happened but it could've very easily. She really got to me, this young lady

  Dr. Jennifer Melfi : [Nods] 

  Tony Soprano : What?

  Dr. Jennifer Melfi : This is a very big step

  Tony Soprano : Yeah, tell me about it

  Dr. Jennifer Melfi : I mean you come here to talk about this impulse instead of just acting on it without thinking

  Tony Soprano : I always think

  Dr. Jennifer Melfi : Really?

  Tony Soprano : Yeah

  Dr. Jennifer Melfi : Having sex with your mistress's cousin, like the mistress wasn't enough to piss off your wife?

  Tony Soprano : [Remains silent] 

  Dr. Jennifer Melfi : Tell me about the niece

  Tony Soprano : She's drop dead gorgeous, with someone like her I could do it right this time. I could start a whole new family

  Dr. Jennifer Melfi : This is something you're contemplating?

  Tony Soprano : What? It'd be a disaster. Of major proportions. Carmella I can "hose" financially there'd no reason with her after that and my nephew, it'd kill him. After years of grooming him to be my number two. It'd be very bad for the young girl, she doesn't deserve that. I know I'm not stupid and I'm part of this "father figure" thing and account of hers ran off

  Dr. Jennifer Melfi : It would be like committing an act of "symbolic incest"

  Tony Soprano : Whatever, what am I going to do? I got lucky the first time because I was able to control myself but you only get one of those

  Dr. Jennifer Melfi : Rationalizing "I can't control myself." You can

  Tony Soprano : [Eventually points to his head]  I don't know, it's different for women, it's all about up here with them

  Dr. Jennifer Melfi : She could make a play for you, you might want to think about going to establish limits and boundaries. For example, you can tell her she means a great deal to you but you think of her as a daughter

  Tony Soprano : Even if I want to fuck her brains out?

  Dr. Jennifer Melfi : This is a mild stone for you. You're at a very important crossroads. For once you want to avoid doing something you know is wrong and would be destructive both to yourself and to the people you care about. That's growth. That's progress

  Tony Soprano : Tell me what I'm supposed to do

  Dr. Jennifer Melfi : You have to be honest with yourself. I know this is a powerful urge but if you can't keep it in your pants you have to stay away from her. You know, not long ago you stood in my outer office. I recall you used the words "drop dead gorgeous" about me and how you had to have me. I said I wouldn't date you and look, you survived

  Tony Soprano : What a horrible fuckin job you have. How do you do it?

  Dr. Jennifer Melfi : What happens now is your choice. Act and create a "bed of misery" or you can look at this as a chance to do something good. You say she respects you. Be worthy of respect. See if you remain a friend to this woman. A help to her.