This is a wonderful example Anna Freud's ego defense mechanism; Reaction Formation!
Often when one or both people try to suppress positive emotions? They will try to counteract with avoidance or even outright hostility in order to avoid true emotions.
I once counseled a couple living with her family. The psychiatrist in charge explained that the home was extremely chaotic. After I inquired, he explained that the biggest problem was that the husband, a soldier who recently returned after two tours during "Stop-Loss" and the wife's sister were "always after each other."
I inquired if that was like arguing and fighting or sexually. He responded, "It's exactly the very same thing."
Often when one or both people try to suppress positive emotions? They will try to counteract with avoidance or even outright hostility in order to avoid true emotions.
I once counseled a couple living with her family. The psychiatrist in charge explained that the home was extremely chaotic. After I inquired, he explained that the biggest problem was that the husband, a soldier who recently returned after two tours during "Stop-Loss" and the wife's sister were "always after each other."
I inquired if that was like arguing and fighting or sexually. He responded, "It's exactly the very same thing."